Why didn't the skeleton cross the road?

A while back I had made an observation and shared it with J6 obiter dictum. J6 had mentioned how happy she was with her group of friends and how she hoped they stay that way forever. I told her that chances are the group will fall apart in time and in (enter number) years from now she will barely even remember some of the things that happened and seemed so important at the time. I developed this idea a little further and came to the conclusion that of the friends I grew up with, it is really only the male friendships (eg. YYS, YDS not AW) that have survived the test of time.

Authors Disclaimer: Those who know me also know that I am blessed with an (un)impressive list of female friends. So what I say here might cause many of you to scream HYPOCRITE!


I have had the privilege of being a constant ear and shoulder to a friend I consider family. Within our conversations over the years, he has shared a story about one particular girl. (I have also gotten to know this girl and love her to death - she is an amazing person.) Their friendship is a model relationship. There have been fights, love, intensity, drama and more. The relationship took many twists and turns and somehow the friendship conquered all. I truly believed that they should be a couple and could not understand why they weren't, in fact I told him multiple times that if she is not interested in being "more than friends" he should end it with her completely as it is unhealthy for him to constantly have her around. The basis of why they aren't together is completely clear to me, it is because she is not interested - I just don't understand the reasoning for her decision.

In all honesty, I admire this friend of mine - he not only had a great girl, he also managed to do something that I just can't seem to do - he told her how he feels. In this case, it didn't work out - but I believe that in the long run, this is the only way. Actually, I take that back - it did work out - just not the way I hoped it would.

I am determined to learn from him. I believe that his way is better than mine.